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Warmth In the Home Brings Long Lasting Effects

Warmth in the home, is one of the biggest factors in human flourishing.  It's easier to have warmth for your child, but it takes more work to have warmth for your partner.  When it begins to cool between you and and your partner, this stress can negatively affect your children.  When in conflict, understanding the way you tend to respond to your partner/spouse, can help you make positive changes.  The Gottman Institute identifies the Four Horseman, the responses to conflict in a relationship, that can lead to apocalyptic results.  Luckily there are antidotes to keep this from happening, to help bring back warmth in your home.

The Four Horseman: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness and Stonewalling

The Antidotes to the Four Horseman 

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How To Have A Better Relationship - NY Times

This is a one minute read emailed to you to improve your relationship.  Pretty easy to read, challenging to practice, but worth the effort.
Marriage Minute, Gottman Institute

BOOK DISCUSSION
This semester we will be reading the classic parenting book, How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk, by Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish.  This week of February 26, we will discuss Chapter 3.  Of course, reading the chapter is the best way to internalize the book, but if you run out of time, here is a summary.

Libro en línea gratis en español:  Cómo Hablar para que los Niños Escuchen y Cómo Escuchar para que los Niños Hablen
Resumen del Libro

 Check This Out!
Here's a great opportunity to learn about parenting without opening a book.  I'll be presenting in one of the sessions.
Time To Connect: A Conference for both Parents and Educators
March 9-10, Kabuki Hotel in SF



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