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Good Enough Parenting for the Pandemic and Beyond

The  Good Enough Parenting  concept was formed in the late 1960's.  Simply put, all you have to do is love your child, and keep trying to be the best parent you can be. Knowing you'll make plenty of mistakes, we can practice  Rupture and Repair .   The beauty of Good Enough Parenting-- some research says that you have to be "Good" 50 percent of the time-- others have said as little as 30% of the time. That's it! That's why it's called 'Good Enough.' This is manageable. I asked my teenage kids one night at dinner, "What percent do you think I'm a good mom?" They were partly joking, and partly trying to get a rise out of me, and chided "Only 50% of the time."  I told them they made my day! Good Enough Parenting in a Time of Crisis Consider This: How can you let go of trying to be a perfect parent, and instead be happy with Good Enough? How can I better reflect to repair ruptures? What self-care do I need to practice to be a Go...

What You Need Is Love

In this stressful time, we need to focus on what is most important, so we'll look at how Love and Affection  ( the most important parent competency ) has long term effects.    How a Parent's Affection Shapes a Child's Happiness for Life The biggest and most expensive longevity study showed the warmth of your relationship with a parent matters long into adulthood .  So let's build this warmth through hugs. Practice for this Week Hugs would fit into parenting competencies one, two and three, as long as you are hugging your children and anyone else in your household.    Forbes magazine also has it as a way to combat the stress of this pandemic time. The late Virginia Satir, psychotherapist and pioneer in family therapy believed “We need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.”   Directions Decide your goal for number of hugs.  If you are not getting four hugs a day, make this ...