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What You Need Is Love

In this stressful time, we need to focus on what is most important, so we'll look at how Love and Affection (the most important parent competency) has long term effects.   

How a Parent's Affection Shapes a Child's Happiness for Life

The biggest and most expensive longevity study showed the warmth of your relationship with a parent matters long into adulthood.  So let's build this warmth through hugs.

Practice for this Week

Hugs would fit into parenting competencies one, two and three, as long as you are hugging your children and anyone else in your household.   Forbes magazine also has it as a way to combat the stress of this pandemic time.

The late Virginia Satir, psychotherapist and pioneer in family therapy believed “We need four hugs a day for survival. We need eight hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.”  

Directions

  1. Decide your goal for number of hugs.  If you are not getting four hugs a day, make this your goal for this week, if you are already getting four, make it eight...
  2. Share your goal with your germ bubble.
  3. Start the hugging!
  4. For extra credit, try the longer hugs, or hug until you melt.

What are the Health Benefits of Hugging?  Click on the link to find out.

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