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How to Say "No" Without Saying No

It's too easy to say "No" to our children.  In fact, a toddler hears the word no an average of 400 times in one day.  Hearing the word "no"too much can have negative effects. There are other ways to communicate the action you prefer when children are behaving in an undesirable way.  

Seven Positive Alternatives to No  

Say "Yes" Instead of "No': Set Limits With A Conditional Yes 

Words That Help Children Grow

Extras:
How to Turn Your No Into A Yes

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Mara said…
Hi all,

Sorry we missed class today, both Rafa and I are not feeling well. Here is a link to the Daniel Siegel Video I was talking about in class on Wednesday.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gm9CIJ74Oxw

Also here is a link to great resources from The Teaching Pyramid curriculum. They have some great handouts for parents and families, including one called "Tell me what to do Instead", which gives you ways to tell your child no, without using NO so much! :)

http://cainclusion.org/teachingpyramid/materials_family.html

Hope these are helpful!
November 3, 2016 at 3:01 PM
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