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Tantrums

Tantrums are not as mysterious as we thought.  Scientists have done studies by attaching monitors on  to the shirts of children find out more.  The stages of a tantrum, and what should or shouldn't do are in the articles. Remember, the most important practice you can have as a parent is to stay calm.  (Discussion for the week of October 1)

What's Behind a Temper Tantrum?  Scientists Deconstruct the Screams

This Is What's Happening In Your Kids' Brain When They Throw A Tantrum

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EXTRAS
Reading to your kids may help keep them from throwing fits, suggests a new study in Early Childhood Research Quarterly. Researchers measured toddlers' spoken vocabulary and self-regulation, or ability to control behavior and emotions. They found that vocab at 24 months serves as a very strong predictor of self-regulation at the three-year mark, especially for boys.

Researchers controlled for overall cognitive skills, ruling out the possibility that tots with better lexicons are just smarter. Instead, they suspect that when kids can voice their thoughts, they take charge of their situation instead of growing frustrated. Kids may also use words as mental tools to figure things out or calm themselves down. "Self-talk is a trick adults use, too," says study author Claire Vallotton.
Boys probably benefit more because they're extra-vulnerable to self-control problems to begin with; the boost from thinking and communicating in words is especially dramatic. —Jenny Merkin

Here's some help to understand and practice Emotion Coaching and Empathy...
Brene Brown on Empathy


BOOK DISCUSSION
This semester's book is Alison Gopnik's, The Gardener and the Carpenter.  We will begin our book discussion this week of September 24.  Please read Chapter 4: Learning Through Looking.  The morning class discussion will begin at 9:30, and the afternoon class will have the discussion after our introductions at 1:00.

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