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Sharing Stories and Putting Them Into Practice

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Your Family Narrative shapes who you are and who your children will be. We all have a narrative. In Dr. Steve Silvestro's article on Family Narratives,  he describes it as the "story we use to describe ourselves, both to other people and in our own heads."  This is important because narratives "create the framework for what you see and experience."  This is true, for us, parents, with our own narrative, and for our children, with the narrative we pass on to them. Generational family narrative builds a strong 'intergenerational self', according to Emory professor, Marshall Duke.  Children will understand they belong to something bigger than themselves.  This in turn, builds self-confidence, security and resilience in our children.  You can read about it and the research in the article.

The Stories That Bind Us

Think about what the 'oscillating' family narrative you want to pass on to your children.

In the book, Places for Childhood, author Jim Greenman describes the "four pillars of security" as people, place, routine and ritual. Rituals can bring to life family narratives through practices. This article explains what it is, its importance, and how to create this in your family.
Establishing Family Rituals

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Rum Tan said…
Kids should be given the chance to explore their talents and strengths. If they are given this chance, it will help them know that they can do great things when they grow older and be confident about their skills. It would also help them take risks and learn from their mistakes. As parents, we must encourage our kids to keep trying and do things their way. If they don’t, it will disable them from discovering their fullest potential.
August 7, 2019 at 10:43 PM
Emma Jasmine said…
Children are often praised whenever they do something right or interesting. If you want to boost your child's confidence first you need to step back let them explore their talents and strengths. If they are given this chance, it will help them know that they can do great things when they grow older and be confident about their skills. It would also help them take risks and learn from their mistakes. As parents, you must encourage your children to keep trying and do things their way. If you want to know more visit Self Confidence
August 17, 2019 at 4:59 AM
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