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Much Affection and Perfect Parenting

Registration has begun! Couples Parenting Workshop on Sunday, September 15: Creating a Family Vision and Mission Read more here, or scroll down for more information.

Spoil your kids with physical affection.  Study after study show that this can have positive long term effects. According to the Grant Study, the most expensive and encompassing 75 year longevity study, the 75 year olds who had "life satisfaction" and happy had one thing in common:  they felt closeness with their parent.  The decades old idea that you can spoil a child with affection is to be ignored (although you can spoil your child with other things).  Be liberal with those hugs and kisses.  (It's good for adults too.)

How a Parent's Affection Shapes the Child's Happiness for Life

There is no such thing as being a perfect parent.  Some research says you just have to be "perfect" 20-30% of the time.  Thats good enough...

When Good Enough Outclasses Perfect Parenting

CONSIDER THIS
Build in an affection ritual. Every morning and every evening,  have a cuddle.
How can you be more emotionally 'in synch' with your child to be good enough?

BOOK DISCUSSION
The week of September 9 we will begin our discussion on the book, How To Raise An Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims.  Please read the introduction and Chapter 1 if you have time before next week.
As you read, consider these ideas:
-Was there a story, statistic, real life example or quote that stood out to you?
-What resonated with you? What did not?
-Did you learn anything new?
-Is there anything in the reading you found challenging?
-In the reading, did you find practical applications that you can begin using?
-Is this changing, challenging or affirming your parenting framework?

EXTRA READING FOR FUN
When Toddlers Attack

A Parenting Workshop for Couples
Part 1: Creating a Family Vision and Mission
When: Sunday, September 15 3-5 pm
Where: More Mojo Studios, 1347 Church Street, SF
Cost: $75/Couple
RSVP: Register Here  Sorry, no childcare provided, but contact me for babysitting referrals.

This class is designed for couples to dream, hope, share and create their family mission and vision.  Parents lament the lack of time with their partner to have these meaningful conversations about core values and finding common goals. This is the time.  In this workshop, we will brainstorm together to get ideas flowing, then we will break up into couples, and develop the guiding principles of your family.  Think of it as a productive date night, a time to enjoy each other without children, build the framework for parenting, and establish your unique family culture.  Join us!
Space is limited, and classes fill. Please reserve your spot soon.
Did you already write your family vision and mission? Sign up for Part 2 here.
What parents are saying about the workshops:
This class was a breath of fresh air for my partner and I. We finally had the chance to take a deep dive into our values and perspectives on parenting—something we never make time for! Nancy creates the right down-to-earth atmosphere that allowed us to laugh and really talk about the things that matter most to us.
--Marc and Ariela
The Creating a Family Vision and Mission class with Nancy was time well spent -- the class feels like a gift that every family should enjoy. Nancy led us through a balanced session of independent thought, authentic connections, and group sharing. The night flowed effortlessly with ideas and values evolving into a collection of statements that resonate with how we envision our family. The statements clarify the things we cherish and highlight the things we hope to strive toward. We highly recommend this class and we appreciate Nancy's skilled facilitation.
--Jon and Sadie
Read More Reviews Here
Contact Nancy at nancyggnass@gmail.com if you have questions.

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