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How to Praise Your Children, and Your Partner

So now we know we're not supposed to over praise, so what are we supposed to say instead? Here are some suggestions...

What Every Parent Needs to Know About Praise

What to Say Instead of Praising

This is the Valentine Month, so we'll do a little bit to think about our partners because good partners make good parents.  A healthy relationship reduces stress in the home.  Stress adversely effects children, therefore, it's worth trying to keep a healthy relationship with your partner for the sake of your children (and everyone else will benefit too).  John Gottman, world renowned researcher on marriage stability and lasting relationships expert, has helpful tools to enhance love in partnerships. This week, let's start by praising and affirming your partner.  Here's a list of 60 positive characteristics you can use to verbally appreciate your partner in this Valentine Season.

Positive Adjective Check List, Gottman Institute

EXTRAS
The Gottman Institute sends out a one minute read every few days to help you work on your relationship.  It is worth taking the 60 seconds to think about your romantic commitment to your partner.  It's a great conversation starter to get you into a romantic mood, so ask your partner to subscribe too. 
Marriage Minute

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BOOK DISCUSSION 
This semester's book is No Drama Discispline, but Daniel Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson.  This week of February 11, we will discuss the Chapter 1. Discussion will begin at 9:30 am in the morning classes, and after our 1:00 introductions in our afternoon classes.

CLASS ANNOUNCEMENT
City College will be closed next Monday, February 18 (and Friday, February 15) for President's Day Holiday. 


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