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Much Warmth and Limits But Fewer Toys

In the 1960's, Diane Baumrind wrote about three different types of parenting styles. Since then, research has been conducted on the outcome of these parenting styles, with consistent results for over 50 years.  On one side of the parenting spectrum, there is the Permissive parenting style, on the other there is Authoritarian.  The international research done with every socio-economic level show there is the sweet spot in the middle: Authoritative parenting.  The two main components to Authoritative parenting is warmth/love and structure/limits.

Authoritative Parenting: An Evidence Based Guide

Fewer toys is can help with creativity, and more.

An Over-Abundance of Toys May Stifle Toddler Creativity

Note:Researchers later added a fourth style of parenting- Indifferent/Univolved.

EXTRAS
The Only Parenting Model You Need (Authoritative)
German kindergartens, toys are being taken away to curb future addiction
The Overprotected Kid (Referred to in Chapter 13 in How To Raise An Adult)

BOOK DISCUSSION
This week of October 14, we will discuss Chapter 12 &13 from the book, How To Raise An Adult by Julie Lythcott-Haims.

CLASS ANNOUNCEMENT
Monday, October 14, class is CANCELLED.  There will be no class this upcoming Monday morning.

 Our Halloween Costume/Potluck Party will be the week of Monday -10/28, Halloween Week.  Put on those adorable costumes and bring healthy food to share.

CREATE THOSE AUTUMN RITUALS
'Tis the season to pumpkin patch and pick apples with the kiddos.  It's great to have this as a yearly tradition with the family.  Throw in a picnic lunch and a visit to the beach if you have the energy. My favorites down the coast are Bob's Pumpkin Farm in Half Moon Bay with a great view of the ocean, pick-them-where-they-grow spacious fields with wheel barrows, good pumpkin prices, and no extra cost kiddie attractions, but with farm animals, a hay bale pyramid and picnic tables.  My other favorite is Swanton Pacific Ranch for apple picking-- its only open on weekends.  If heading down to Half Moon Bay on a weekend in October, do it early in the morning before the traffic gets crazy. Enjoy this fun time of the year!

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